I used to laugh at people who told me that the friendships I had when I was a kid would be the longest lasting and truest friendships of my life. If I could I would apologize for my "know it all attitude" and tell them how right they are.
Since high school I have had several acquaintances, but as of now few true friends. You see as I get older I now realize what true friendship means. It means that you do not have to agree on every subject, think alike, dress alike, worship the same, nor discipline and raise your children the same way. You could be complete opposites. What matters is that you respect those differences, and you truly care about that persons feelings and well being.
Now this is were I have to say that the friendships I have made during my adulthood differ than those formed during my youth. My best friend in the world and I do not agree on every aspect of life, but she still cares about me. We know we are different but that doesn't hurt our friendship. I have always thought it is what makes it better because we balance each other out.
Why is it then as be become adults that people become so judgemental. They feel that you must think like them to be their friend. I thought for years that my solitude has been because I am not from here and people in this area are very cliquish. But I now wonder if it doesn't matter where you live. It is just a fact of life that as you get older you realize that you have few true friends and the rest are just people you know.
Please don't take offense to this if you are a friend or acquaintance. This is just something that has really been on my heart as of late and today a situation occurred that brought it to a head. My husband overheard a "friend" saying a very unkind comment about me to other "friends". He had to just get up and leave. It really angered him because he knows how much I just want to be accepted for who I am. Yet, he knew that I would not want him to say what he so much wanted to say. I would rather just let it go. Whether he said something or not the words still hurt the same.
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The Christians that act like that are Sunday morning so called Christians. A true friend won't talk about you behind your back or sit and listen to someone that is talking about you. They should (if they are a real friend) take up for you against that person that is running off at the mouth!!!! Does going to church really make someone a Christian? Makes you think huh?
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